**Caution, controversial topic within – please don’t cuss, just discuss*
So the other night at work I was chatting with one of our young waitresses (she’s 19), and she proceeded to tell me some really personal things that I wasn’t sure I even wanted to hear about. I’m honored that she trusts me and sort of thinks of me as a big sister, but still…
Long story short – her Mom was a teenage mother who never married the baby daddy, though her Dad has always been in her life. Mom never wanted her daughter to “be like her” and miss her chance at college, etc. b/c of a teenage pregnancy. Since her Mom (and new husband and new young half-siblings) moved to CO a couple of years ago for work, my coworker spent the last couple of years of high school living with her Dad and his new wife (who is now his ex-wife) in Texas and it sounds like she was quite the wild child. She’s telling me about it, and said, “well, you know how accidents happen” (wherein my brain starts screaming NONONONOTHEYFUCKINGDONT-NOTTOME)…you see where this is going, right?
*a caveat here – I’m a pro-choicer, especially in instances like sexual abuse, but I also think there’s a lot of grey area, and when pregnancy is caused by teenage horniness and stupidity and “forgetting” to use birth control, for GOD’S SAKE be a little responsible and carry the child to term and give it to a family that would LOVE to have a baby. if you’re adult enough to choose to have sex, you’re responsible enough to think about birth control*
PHEW, sorry about that.
At any rate, she realized she was pregnant, spent “a long time thinking about what to do”… and by the week of her high school graduation, she “had to go get it done that week b/c she’d been thinking so long about it” (which I assume means she was fairly far along…makes my skin crawl)…but she “knew her Mom would be so disappointed” … so she went in the day before she graduated high school and terminated the pregnancy.
Mind you – I’m at WORK listening to this story, and every part of me wants to scream are you fucking kidding me child?! but I know I can’t do that and UGH…
What would you say to someone in that situation?