Trinity @ Three is a Magic Number just wrote an amazing post explaining the concept of compassion fatigue, and it totally struck a chord with me. I struggle with this on a daily basis… how much is too much? How much sadness can I handle? So many of you I have never met and probably never will, yet I find myself crying on a daily basis because of your stories. I’m just not sure how to separate myself from the sadness at times. Does anyone else feel this way? The ALI community is filled with a lot of wonderful joys, but also so much sorrow. It’s a tough, amazing, hard group to be a part of.
Speaking of groups, Elphaba just wrote a great post about “what’s in an infertility blog” and feeling lost in the ALI community. Parenting after infertility or loss is a whole lot different than being a fertile Mommy Blogger, but there isn’t really a “space” for us. We don’t feel comfortable participating in ICLW, because we all remember how much it sucked while you were in TTC hell to come across a parenting blog… yet we want to communicate with others who understand how tough the journey was to get here and not feel like we’re rubbing our “happily ever after” in anyone’s faces. After a lot of positive feedback from other bloggers expressing that they feel the same way, PAIL was born – Parenting/Pregnant After Infertility and Loss. Elphie said, I think the point everyone made in the comments is that what we needed was a network of people that get pregnancy isn’t sunshine and unicorn farts and that being lucky enough to have a baby is an incredible gift.
I’m so excited to be part of this new blogroll and to find other bloggers who I can identify with!