Luckily for my husband, Father’s Day never gave him negative/hard feelings while we were TTC. He was always very focused on celebrating his dad and was of the mindset of if it’s going to happen for us, it will happen, if not, it won’t. I definitely wasn’t that relaxed about it, and obviously we needed ART to bring Stella into our lives, but I do admire his ability to just have faith that things would work out the way they were supposed to. Because he never built this day up in a negative way whatsoever, it continues to be a day filled with joy, celebration, and love that is untouched by bittersweet emotions. Thankfully, this year we were able to celebrate with his father his first year of being a father to Stella. It was such a good day. 🙂
|Stella with her Father and her Father’s Father!|
This day was filled with so much laughter and love. We spent eight hours up at Charlie’s parent’s house eating, laughing, talking, singing along to old music on the ancient boombox, and playing with Stella. It was pretty much perfect. 🙂
|Playing airplane with Daddy!|
Charlie is such an amazing father to Stella. I know these first six months of her life have necessarily been very mommy-centric, and sadly, I know that there have been too many times that I have been too short with him regarding her. Too often I just wish he could read my mind and intuitively read Stella better like I do, but whenever I make myself step back and just watch, I remember that we are both so new to this, and we are both doing what we can to be the best parents possible to Stella. For example, when I can tell that the one last game of airplane when she’s sleepy is going to send her over the edge and I am frustrated he won’t stop before it reaches that point, I need to remind myself that he is playing that one last game of airplane with her because he loves her so much and he loves to make her laugh. He loves her just as much as I do – he just is her Dad, not her Mom, and his relationship with her is entirely different than my own, and that’s okay.
We love you Charlie – you are an amazing Daddy.