Tag Archives: Jaime

Final Details: It’s Just a Piece of Paper, Right?

In the grand scheme of life, there are very few details that truly matter. At the same time, details can bring us comfort or crush us. Details are not easily ignored. Jaime died on the 15th of March. We had to get her personal effects moved out of her apartment by the 1st, so two […]

It’s the (Little) Things

Two days after Jaime died, her oldest brother and his wife made it to town with their kids (after a 1,200 mile drive!), and we got to work deciding the nitty gritty details that we spent the first 48 hours avoiding talking about. Cremation vs. Casket. Church Funeral vs. Outdoor Memorial Service. Who will lead […]

The Importance of That One Day

Today is the 15th. That means that Jaime died one month ago today. That’s one entire month without my sister-in-law in my life. and one entire month that I cannot believe has passed already. I don’t know if I’m in the denial stage of grief or what, but it honestly does not feel real that Jaime […]

Let Her Go

This was one of my sister-in-law’s favorite songs, and for anyone who knew Jaime, you know that she always listened to her favorite songs on repeat for months on end. It drove us nuts sometimes, but it was also one of the things we loved about her. She (and my husband) are really good at […]

The Monday Snapshot – Flowers Edition

Stella has been enamored with flowers lately, just like her Auntie Jaime was. I know that it is customary for people to often send flowers after a death, but in Jaime’s case it went beyond the standard bouquets. People knew how much she loved flowers (the florist told us she’d often walk in just to […]

On Grief: The Quiet Moments

Jaime died on a Saturday morning. The official coroner’s report says 12:59pm, but that’s just because the local ambulance crew did everything they could to try to save her for over an hour. I live in a small town, you see. Population 1,000. Really small. Everyone knew her and loved her, including the EMS crew, and […]

It Won’t Happen To Me…aka, The Importance of Having Health Insurance

As Americans approach the March 31st deadline to sign up for health insurance through the marketplace to get coverage and avoid the tax penalty, I have a little story for you. Two months ago: my sister-in-law asked me for help figuring out the new health care exchange.  She was 27 with no known health issues […]

10 days

10 day ago she suddenly died. 5 days ago we held her memorial service on the first day of spring. Today I worked on figuring out details like depositing her final paycheck, creating an estate account, and paying her bills. This is so fucking unfair. To go from planning a Saturday afternoon hangout with her to taking […]

The Monday Snapshot – Attempting Normality

I have so much to say about the past 8 days and at the same time, nothing to say. It was a beautiful service on Thursday, and today I have to go to work. I don’t wanna go.


My SIL. I miss her.

Sadness Beyond Comprehension

Yesterday my sister-in-law (Charlie’s little sister) died, suddenly and unexpectedly. She was honestly one of my best friends here in town, and my kids adored her. I don’t even have words to express how heartbroken we all are right now. The pain my husband and his family are feeling is incomprehensible to me. Please pray […]