Tag Archives: PAIL

The Monday Snapshot – PAIL Edition

We just had a crazy busy weekend full of meals with friends and their kids, but man was it fun. These are the weekends that I try really hard to step back and just appreciate the journey and how much our lives have changed in the past 5 years. This pic is of my kids along […]

Parenting without a Leash

Over at PAIL, I was the moderator in charge of November’s Monthly Theme Post Topic regarding “how long is your leash?” My thought process behind the prompt was to find out if people felt their ALI (adoption/loss/infertility) backgrounds affected their parenting styles, or if it had just evolved as a natural facet of who they […]

Open, Relax, Release, Peace

This post is my contribution to PAIL’s October 2012 Monthly Theme on Birth Stories. The prompts on this month’s theme asked readers to explore how their birth experience(s) affected their parenting and future plans. I already wrote out my daughter’s birth story in a LONG three part series here right after she was born nearly two years ago. […]

Why Do I Blog?

As Sarah mentioned in her intro to this month’s PAIL Monthly Theme, usually blogging about blogging is something I try to avoid, because it can be pretty boring and redundant. However, the question of WHY DO I BLOG? is something I’ve been thinking about a lot lately, so here goes nothing! Did you start blogging before, during, or […]

selfishly feeding my child(ren)

If you’ve been around my blog for awhile, you know that I have no problem talking about my boobs. I’ve written plenty of posts about my breastfeeding & pumping experiences, and it’s my hope one of those posts has helped someone else who was in the trenches and trying to figure out how to make it […]

Looking Back…

As most of you are aware, I’m one of the main contributors over at PAIL (Pregnant and/or Parenting through Adoption/Infertility/Loss), and we are currently celebrating our 1 year anniversary of being at our PAIL Bloggers location. For the June Monthly Theme Post, we asked people to weigh in on their journeys and give us a snapshot of […]

the body

Having a positive body image is a tough thing for most women. I admire the woman who feels supremely confident in her own skin at all times, but I have a feeling those women are few and far between. As those of you who have been following me for a long time are aware, I […]

High Standards?

The current monthly theme post topic over at PAIL is all about “high standards” — and asking how/if coming to parenting from an ALI background affected the standards you hold yourself to as a parent.  When I first read the post, my gut reaction was “TOTALLY.” But then I started thinking about it more, and […]

Les Questions

Over at PAIL we are currently running a little lighthearted 20 questions survey to help us get to know more about everyone! Also, you totally don’t have to be on the PAIL Blogroll to participate. Just answer the 20 questions below and link up by Thursday! I’d love to get to know a little more […]

who could? who should? who would?

I am a pretty anal, type-A sort of person about a lot of things in my life. I love spreadsheets and lists and having my ducks in a row… (though nottypea has brought it to my attention that perhaps I am more like her and actually have “Type A aspirations and Type B execution – almost […]

what makes a baby?

This is my contribution to PAIL’s Monthly Theme post topic for January, “Where Do Babies Come From?” Click here to join in! ***** Wow, so I really am not sure where to start this.  I have thought about it a little bit, but not a lot – I guess because the ALI journey has become such an […]

The Monday Snapshot – Four Eyes Edition

We’ve spent the last 24 hours hanging out at Nana and Papa’s house with Charlie’s brother and his family that are in from MN (and actually, I’m sitting in their kitchen typing this up – we’re still here!). It’s been a ton of fun and we got a LOT of great pics of the cousins […]


The PAIL Monthly Theme post topic for December is about balancing life, work, and parenthood. Finding the right balance to make sure you’re taking care of all of those areas…it’s an ongoing process, and it’s one I struggle with every day. Sometimes I feel like we really have things dialed in right now…and then sometimes […]

Traditions – Past, Present, and Future

This is my contribution to PAIL’s Monthly Theme post topic for November, “Traditions.” Click here to join in! ***** When I started thinking about the topic of traditions, I realized that in order to determine what traditions I wanted for my daughter and our family as a whole, I needed to start with figuring out […]

Nurture Shock

This post is my contribution to the current PAIL Book Club selection, Nurture Shock. Click here to find out more! When I first read the reviews on Amazon for Nurture Shock, I was immediately intrigued. I’m not much of a book reader when it comes to wanting parenting advice, but this book seemed different from the […]

Obsessed with Babies

The PAIL Monthly Theme Post topic for October is “Obsessed with Babies.” Chandra posted some great topic starter ideas in her post on this last week – feel free to join in on the blog hop this month by writing your own post and submitting it with the form on this page!  Has infertility caused […]

Here’s what I wrote over on PAIL today. Have you taken a picture with your kiddo lately?!

Guilt and Grieving

The PAIL Monthly Theme post for September is “Guilt and Grieving.” There are obviously a myriad of ways to comment on this topic – feel free to click on over and join in the discussion! What did you lose? What do you grieve? There’s plenty to consider when revisiting your personal grief and guilt over […]

Screen Time

The PAIL Monthly Theme Post topic for August is “Screen Time.” This category was actually a topic I submitted for discussion, and I am extremely interested in other parent’s perspectives on this one, as my own opinions seem to be constantly evolving. Here’s my intro I wrote on PAIL last week: Not in my house!  […]

Considerations on Family Building

The PAIL Monthly Theme Post for July is “Considerations on Family Building.” In some ways, I cannot believe that TTC#2 is even on my radar already, but I suppose it makes sense that it is. I am the eldest of five children, and my husband is the middle of three. We are both blessed to […]

Words Have Power

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Just a Reminder…

I just posted volume 3 of the PAIL weekly summary – please go check it out! I also included a quick blurb about getting the wool pulled over our eyes by that awful hoax this past week. It is so sad that anyone would fabricate a life that many in the ALI community have lived […]

what now? life on "the other side"

This post is a spin off from the PAIL feature post questions that sprung from this article. What does the “after” feel like to you? Is it bittersweet, or are you at peace?I seriously think my answer to this just depends on the day. Honestly, the majority of the time, I’m at peace. I am happy. […]

Where Oh Where Has My Little PAIL Gone…

When Elphaba announced nearly three weeks ago that she was moving on to a new blog space for a fresh start, it made me sad, but I totally understood why. At the same time, she asked for bloggers to step forward who would like to keep the PAIL blogroll alive, and myself and three other […]

What Kind of Parent am I?

This post is my contribution to the PAIL monthly theme post. For more information about how to join in, click here! Before I had a child, I assumed that I would be much more of a Type-A, schedule following, mainstream sort of parent than I have actually turned out to be. In fact, most people […]