When Stella was little, we waited a week or two to introduce the pacifier because I was worried about nipple confusion. She never really took to it, and other than the random OH MY GOD MY CHILD IS LOSING HER MIND AND WE’RE ON THE HIGHWAY AND THERE IS ABSOLUTELY NOTHING WE CAN DO ABOUT IT times, we were totally fine with her not taking one.
With Harvey we did the same thing, and just like his big sister, he liked none of the 5 kinds of pacifiers we tried out when he was a couple of weeks old. Again, I figured it was one less thing to have to wean him of when he got older, and it kind of drives me nuts when kids always have a paci in their mouths in pictures, so it didn’t really bother me that he didn’t want one either.
However, about a month ago the kid found his thumb, and OH MY GOODNESS, it’s amazing. He is already a super chill baby, but add in the thumb, and this kid is SET. He is so content to just hang out and watch his surroundings and suck on his thumb and we kind of forget he is there sometimes. I wish I was kidding.
The other benefit of this amazing ability to self sooth is sleep. BLESSED sleep.
Stella was never a great sleeper, always waking to nurse every couple of hours until she regressed to waking every 45 minutes around 7-8 months and I lost my mind and we did a bit of sleep training. She needed to be tightly swaddled in order to sleep, and if she got her arm out, it was all over. Thankfully I knew nothing different, so somehow I managed to function those first 8 months on very little sleep, and it just worked.
Harvey, on the other hand, was a pretty decent sleeper the first couple months of his life, generally waking every 3 hours or so to eat. That was totally manageable & expected with a newborn, and I was pleasantly surprised that I was actually getting much better chunks of sleep than I did with Stella at that age. He also hated the swaddle, and it is very clear that he prefers to sleep on his side if he’s on a flat surface, so he just sleeps in footie PJs or a sleep sack with his arms free so that I don’t worry about him rolling onto his belly and not being able to move.
Since he found his thumb though? Check out his night time sleep schedule for this past week:
[*RUNNING AROUND KNOCKING ON ALL THE WOOD*]
Keep in mind that he is 11-12 weeks old right now. He sleeps either in his swing or in bed with me – usually in his swing for the first portion of the night and with me after the night nursing.
Saturday Night (9pm-7am): 4h15 [nurse] 3h45 [nurse] 1h45
Sunday Night (8:15pm – 7am ): 4h30 [nurse] 4 hr [nurse] 1h30
Monday Night (8pm – 6am ): 7h45 [nurse] 2hr
Tuesday Night (8am – 6:45am ): 8h30 [nurse] 2hr
Wednesday Night (8:30pm – 6:15am): 9h45
Thursday Night (8:15pm – 6:45am): 4h45 [nurse] 3hr [nurse] 2hr15
Friday Night (8:30pm – 7am): 8hr [nurse] 2hr
Don’t get me wrong, I fully expect there will be some sort of sleep regression in our future, but for the moment, I am REVELING in it. I mean, seriously, I don’t even know what to do with all this sleep! His first stretch of sleep is consistently at least 4 hours, and more and more often he is dropping the midnight feeding and sleeping closer to 8. Since I go to bed within an hour of him, that means I’m getting pretty darn good sleep myself. Whenever he wakes up to nurse, I pull him into bed with me and nurse him side-lying (so I’m still laying down) and we both fall back asleep that way. Sometimes I’ll move him back to the swing if I wake up, otherwise we just cuddle the last couple of hours until morning. When he has slept 7-9 hours at a stretch I’ve actually gotten up to pump and then gone back to sleep, but that’s not a huge deal, because that means I skip my pre-work pumping session that I normally do around 6am, so I’m getting roughly the same amount of sleep either way.
I mean, really, I am so blessed. Thank you Harvey.